Tuesday, January 28, 2020

The Lies, Truths and Bullshit Behind Mobile Dating Apps



“How do lies injure us?” (Harry Frankfurt, 36). As a part of generation Z, our busy lives and internet society have huge impacts on how we present ourselves in our regular traditional lifestyle. Being a student at a big and diverse college, I sometimes find it hard to meet and connect with new people. Before the Internet, people met through family members, friends, school, work and public encounters. However, with today’s free digital match-making apps people tend to forget the traditional ways to bond with each other. Online dating apps such as Tinder, Bumble and Match, etc have emerged over tradition dating.  They are now become something that falls into our day-to-day routine. Clearly, these sites have had a huge impact on dating behavior; they're changing the fundamental nature of our social networks. Choices are made in the blink of an eye and people tend to be skeptical with all the messages they receive through dating apps. The truths could lie within a description but the lies could be hidden behind the bright screens. From research, more than 50% of online users admitted lying in their profile about their height, weight, or age. If you are lucky, you find the one. If you are unlucky, you get a creepy one and another bullshit story to tell your friends.  Nowadays, it’s rare to see relationships would begin with a smile and a handshake, rather than it’s just a swipe. This culture is changing the way we treat others and how we handle our own feelings as well.

9 comments:

  1. I think this is a good topic to write about, in the context of the readings. Online dating is one of those hemispheres where serious human emotion and the internet converge; the results are often amusing.

    I'd recommend breaking the writing into tiny paragraphs. When blogging, it's a good way to draw attention to lines you think are important.

    Personally, I'd also like to the use of images and hyperlinks. In a blog-style format, writing can almost always benefit from some level of visual aid or external citation. Thanks!

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  2. I enjoyed reading your Article! You did a great job of incorporating yourself into your blog post and didn't make it all about the readings.

    Similar to what Bryce said, I think it would be very helpful if you broke it down into smaller paragraphs as it would keep the reader more engaged with your content.

    It also may be helpful to incorporate a little bit more ethical discussion into your blog.
    Thanks!

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  3. Hi Lina,
    I enjoyed reading your post! I really like that you added how you personally feel it's sometimes hard to connect with new people at such a huge school, as I often feel the same way. You bring up a good point about how society as a whole has changed and people have become much more skeptical. Since the article is talking about bullshit in online dating, one topic I think you should bring up is cat-fishing, which seems to be rampant in the online dating world and ties directly into the theme of the post.

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  4. You have a really great voice and argument! You can really tell what you believe in! However, you should try to find a way to incorporate some evidence into the post that shows this. Also what would you do to people if they were able to be caught lying on the internet? What would be their punishment? Who should punish them?

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  5. Your point of view comes from experience and it shows through your work. It's inspired and speaks of one of the many ways technology is changing the fundamentals of how we interact with one another. Drawing from Harry Frankfurt, the inclusion of some of his arguments for why lying is hurtful, perhaps even when it can be well meaning, would only serve to further enhance your own. Further, while bullshit has been an inherent part of dating for generations, perhaps you could speak to how it's use is affected by the introduction and use of dating apps.

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  6. This is a really interesting argument that does have validity to it. I would hold off on generalizing a bit at the end, although online dating apps are indeed a thing, I think the actual process of meeting people is still done a lot more in person than through apps like tinder. Also, dating apps' popularity is similar to the population density in a given area. I.E. tinder is probably more prevalent in Ann Arbor than a small town in rural Michigan. Good article though, I would just hold off on expanding the notion that essentially everyone is on/actively using dating apps.

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  7. To Lina,
    I enjoyed reading your article and I think this topic needs to be addressed in this digitizing era. These dating services do seem to make our judgments much shallower versus in-person judgments and getting to talk to the person. The in-person interactions are still there, however, and you should avoid trying to generalize these dating services for everyone. Also, trying to connect the topic to the readings such as information that these dating services have on us and whether it's protected or not.

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  8. Hi Lina! I really enjoyed reading your article, dating apps have become a significant part of modern relationships and college life. I really like the fact that your linked your article to your personal life. To improve, I would suggest adding some more evidence to back your arguments maybe from readings or external sources. You could also add some pictures or different font sizes to make your blog some aesthetic.

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  9. Lina, I really enjoyed the topic you chose for your article. I think online dating apps are something a lot of people can relate to yet may hold issues behind them. I really like how you incorporated your own personal experience with dating applications.
    I recommend maybe to separate your paragraphs and sentences to make for an easier read as well as adding an image or two to your next blog post. :)
    Also, I would reference the reading a bit more (with putting a citation) and maybe include more of the main topic of the reading in your blog post. Overall it was a great read!

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